"Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement."
~ Golda Meir
Today (and every day) I want you to spend a little time being kind to yourself.
When is the last time you spent a few minutes looking in a mirror, and, with true feeling from the bottom of your heart, said out loud, “I love you?”
“I love YOU!”
These are not just words…they mean something, and you should make sure that you mean what you are saying…especially when saying it to yourself. You should say these words to yourself with the emotion that would normally accompany them if you were speaking to somebody else. Your words are powerful beyond anything you can imagine.
Be Kind to Yourself
I watch people…it is something that I have always done. It is always interesting to me to see how people interact with each other. The way we deal with other people shines a light deep down into our own selves…but…but…but…
I am also quite intrigued by the fact that as I watch people, I have come to notice something that I feel is quite strange…although I have, and still am at times, been guilty of exactly the same behavior. I notice that most people treat others far better than they treat themselves. We are kinder and gentler with others. We are more forgiving of shortcomings and indiscretions. What’s that all about?
Why? Why would we treat others better than we treat ourselves? I think that it is programming that was instilled in us from a very young age. Programming that says that it is selfish to take care of ourselves before we take care of others. And, we are taught by our well-meaning influencers, being selfish is not good…it is inappropriate behavior for anybody.
Think about this for a moment. They don’t want you to be selfish…why? Because it makes them feel uncomfortable, or embarrassed. And they would rather feel good (like you and I would.) So, they want us to make them feel good…who’s being selfish?
We all want to feel good. This is our nature. But we are the only ones who can make ourselves feel good or bad. We are in charge. We have the responsibility for that. Don’t look at it as being selfish…look at it as being SELF-FULL.
Anyway, my point is that it is a good thing to put ourselves first. It is a good thing to treat ourselves well…but most of us don’t practice this. START PRACTICING!
Enjoy Your Own Company
Another thing that I find interesting about most people (again, I include myself at times) is that they often have such a low opinion of themselves that they don’t like to spend time with themselves. Many are afraid to spend time alone because they feel that it will force them to get to know themselves…and they are pretty sure that they won’t like what they find.
STOP IT! You are worth knowing. You are the most important person in your life, and you are the person who should know you best. You are perfect as you are…you are beautiful.
Time spent getting to know ourselves…truly getting to know ourselves…is well worth the effort. As you get to know and understand yourself, you will begin to understand why you do what you do. You will start to understand what drives you, and you will begin to see your true purpose in life. There is nothing more enjoyable than coming face to face with yourself, and really appreciating who you are.
Spending time with yourself will also give you the opportunity to really go within…to connect with your inner being…with your higher-self. You will be truly amazed at the insights you can glean from this connection. You will learn to listen to and trust your higher-self…this is known as intuition, and it will never steer you wrong.
Loving ourselves is one of the most difficult things. We see ourselves as we think that others see us. We really have no clue how others perceive us…and, for crying out loud, we shouldn’t care anyway. What others think of us is really none of our business.
When we love ourselves we are saying, I accept you exactly as you are, with all of your flaws and imperfections. We are telling ourselves that we are worthy of everything in our lives, and everything we desire…and we are worthy.
Again, it is our influencers that have had the greatest effect on our ability to love ourselves. We are taught that we disappoint others at times, and we start to expect to disappoint ourselves. We feel that because we can’t live up to somebody else’s expectations, we are not worth loving. We are broken.
None of this is true. Love yourself for who you are…you are exactly who you should be…your true self is, anyway. Yes, we show masks to others, and sometimes we try to leave the masks on when it comes to dealing with ourselves. We try to hide who we really are…even from ourselves. One of the biggest perpetuators of this is the “Self-improvement” industry.
We do not need to improve ourselves. We are perfect as we are. Sure, it is a good thing to develop yourself, you are always expanding and growing…but you do not need improvement. Keep this in mind as you travel your journey…there need be no improvement on the perfection you already are.
Don’t take my word for it. Try it. Treat yourself with kindness. Spend time enjoying your own company. Love yourself. You are worth it…and as you practice this more and more, you will find that you are really worth all of the attention you can shower upon yourself.
Let us know how you feel about yourself. What are your habits of self-neglect or self-loathing? What will you do to change things? Leave a comment, we are all interested.