"Be true to yourself…there is no need to apologize to anyone for being who you are – don’t deprive others of who you came here to be."
~ Don Francis
How many times have you heard the phrase, “Be true to yourself?” I know I’ve heard it often enough to think of it as cliché. That is, until I stop to really think what it means – at least to me.
As we grow up in this world, we are influenced by many people. Our parents, our teachers, and our peers all have an impact on how we think, and what we want in our lives. As we spend more time with these influencers, we start to think more like them…we start to trust their judgements, even though we didn’t always agree with them…we begin to respect their opinion of the way the world works…and of us.
There is nothing wrong with this, at least at its core. We chose the circumstances of our birth. We chose the situation into which we were born because it had the greatest potential of supplying us with the opportunities that would lead us toward the expansions that we desire from this lifetime. And so the environment we are operating in has caused us to become who we are.
However, as time passes, many of us start to be influenced to the point where we start to take the opinions and preferences of those influential others as our own. Parents and teachers may push us toward certain paths that don’t exactly mesh with our own preferences and desires. Peers may influence us to do the things that they feel are the right things…or the cool things to do. Even though we may feel a little (or a lot) uneasy with these choices, we make them, fearing rejection or other forms of non-acceptance.
This is where we are not remaining true to ourselves. We need to make the choices that are right for us. We need to follow our own true preferences and desires and work toward them, no matter what others might think of our choices.
“But,” you might ask, “How do we know that we are making the right choices? How do we know that others are not pushing and prodding us to the right path?” These are fair questions, and the answer to them is very important for our own peace of mind…and for the success of our journey.
We know by how we feel about the choices. We have an internal guidance system…our feelings and emotions. Our higher self has always already become who we have decided we want to become…all of our preferences cause us to launch desires, and our higher self becomes them. In our human form we must then catch up to our higher self…when we do, what we desire will come into our lives. When you are moving in the right direction, or when you are making decisions about which path to take, the right decision, the right actions, always feel good. Trust your intuition.
If something feels off to you, or you are experiencing negative emotions about a choice you are making, then it is your internal guidance system saying…”Hey, wait. Slow down and let’s look at this again. This isn’t really what you want.” Trust your feelings and emotions…they will never let you down. Go with things that make you feel good or that bring good emotions to you.
This is what following your true path is all about. This is what it really means to “be true to yourself.”
When you are being true to yourself, you must not let anyone else sway you. You really shouldn’t care what they think of your choices…after all, they are your choices, not somebody else’s. There will be times when somebody might be upset when you follow your own path instead of joining them on their path…so be it. Don’t worry about it…and most of all, don’t feel bad about it. You never need to apologize to anyone for your choices. If they are aligned with your true self, then you are doing the right thing by following them.
You are here to live your life…not somebody else’s. Let them live their own. Leave them in peace when they choose not to follow what you ask them to do. It goes both ways. Let them be who they are.
You came here to experience. You came here to grow and expand yourself and thus the Universe. You play an important role in the expansion. But don’t forget that you are not in this world alone. While you are here, you will have an effect on others. You are here to play a role in what they do. When you act from the point of view of your true self, you are doing the “job” of interacting exactly as you intended. When you don’t follow your true path, you may be depriving others of the ability to follow their true path.
Of course, the Universe will realign things to compensate. But you came here to play your part…don’t deprive others of that. Be who you are meant to be. Be who you came here to be. Be bold about following your path and pursuing your desires. It is exactly as it is meant to be.
Be true to yourself. Don’t apologize for being yourself…and most of all, don’t deprive others of the YOU that you came here intending to be.
Let us know if you are following your own true path? Or are you letting others influence you to go directions that don’t feel quite right to you? Are you trying to influence others to follow your path? Are you playing your part? Leave us a comment and let us know where you stand. We’d really like to hear where you are, and what you think.