"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."~ William Shakespeare
I am confused. I have been struggling with something for quite some time, but recently it seems to be getting more confusing by the day. I decided to write about it today to try to gain some clarity.
You see, I believe that we are each responsible for everything in our lives…EVERYTHING! I realize that this view or belief is not the norm for our society at the current time, but it is truly what I believe, and it is this belief that is causing my confusion. Part of the confusion is that I don’t know if it is confusion or consternation.
I understand that not everyone holds the same belief about responsibility as I do. I truly do understand it, but lately it has become more and more difficult to reconcile this with myself. I try not to judge others, but I seem to be failing that with respect to this point.
Everywhere I turn lately, I run into people who seem to have intent to be unhappy and complain about everything in their lives. As if this isn’t bad enough, it seems like not a single one of them is willing to take on the responsibility for either their attitude, or their situation. It is driving me crazy, because I know that both are their responsibility.
These people want to blame everyone and everything, except, of course, themselves, for all of their “troubles.” I think that is one of the things that has me confused…you see, the only reason that these people have “troubles” is that they insist on looking at their situation as a “bad” situation. They insist on taking the perspective that factors outside of themselves are responsible for these unwanted situations.
All I can say is…”Wake Up, People!” You are responsible for your situation. You invited it into your life. If you don’t like it, change it. Of course, I rarely actually say this to anyone…at least not out loud. You see, I get nothing but arguments from people. They immediately start defending themselves and their position. They ask, “Why would I invite something into my life that I don’t want?” Then I have to go into the explanation…If you don’t experience, or at least become aware of what you don’t want, how would you know what you do want? You came here to experience life. You came here to expand the Universe. What you are experiencing is a big part of that expansion. It is providing you with motivation to do something different…something to change the situation you currently find yourself in.
And, that being the case, the situation is actually quite positive, don’t you think? It is a situation which expansion will come out of. It is something that will inspire change in your life, in the world. How can something like that be negative?
I am sure you see what I mean by perspective. We usually take a very narrow perspective in our lives. We look at the immediate situation and our like or dislike of it, and label it from that perspective. I encourage you to take a step back and take a larger perspective…take a long view. No situation is either good or bad…it just is. The way you choose to perceive it is what makes it “good” or “bad.”
Think about this for a bit. Mull it about in your mind. When you truly understand where I am coming from, you will never be able to look at a situation the same again. You will understand the long view. You will still be inspired and motivated to change a situation you don’t like, but you will understand that the situation isn’t bad or good…it just is.
Are you capable of changing your perspective? Of course you are. It just takes some thinking, and some intent to look at things differently. Let us know how you’re doing with your perspective. I’d be interested to hear how you deal with the contrast that life is providing to you.