"Our intention creates our reality."~ Wayne Dyer
It is that time of the year again...that time when we make promises to ourselves to try harder, to do better, to change something that we don't want in our lives...It is that time of year when we make New Years Resolutions.
The practice of setting New Years Resolutions is not new. It is something that many of us practice regularly. We all want something more in our lives, and the beginning of a new year seems to be a good time to decide to change things. Unfortunately, many of us fail to keep our resolutions for long after the new year starts...and we get disappointed in ourselves.
Over the years I have set many resolutions. Over the years I have broken many resolutions. Over the years I have been disappointed in myself many times.
In the past my resolutions have been ambitious. Many times they anticipated radical change. For whatever reason, the change I wanted was unsustainable with the approach that I used. I failed many, many times, at many, many things. Sometimes, despite my disappointment at my lack of success at something, I would set the same resolution the next year, and fail again. So, I began to make my resolutions less ambitious...I began to cut back on my expectations of myself...this is not a good approach.
By cutting back...by expecting less...I was setting myself up for having and doing the same things in my life, year after year, without much change at all. I was setting myself up to remain small, to stop expanding. I was setting myself up for a life far less significant, far less engaging, than I dreamed of. I was compromising my dreams.
The thought of compromising or giving up on my dreams is unbearable, and so, I have decided to take a different approach to changing my life, to pursuing my dreams.
Intentions vs Resolutions
Instead of Resolutions, I am setting Intentions this year. I know that some will say to me, "Don, it's just semantics...it doesn't matter what we call them." I disagree.
You see, I don't think that resolutions and intentions are the same at all. In my mind there are many differences.
To me, resolutions are more like wishes...nice to haves. They feel like they have no substance or permanence to them. A resolution, in my mind, is far weaker than an intention.
An intention, again, to me, is much stronger. It feels like it has a permanence, a strong drive behind it. To me, an intention is something that will happen, no matter what...sure it may take some time, but it is bound to happen, and nothing can stop it.
This is just the way I look at things. Others may disagree. You may feel that the two terms are synonymous, and that is fine. Each of us is different and has different views on things.
What I am trying to get across here is that when you go about setting your goals and plans for the next year, try to make them something that you intend to have happen...make them inevitable. I don't want you to start settling because you have failed time and again at something. Don't compromise your life...set your intentions, and follow through.
A quick search online will provide you with a myriad of ways to approach the creation and the "keeping" of New Years Resolutions. It might be a good idea for you to read some of them. It might help you to move forward. I am not trying to discourage you from setting goals for the next year...I am just trying to encourage you to approach this process with an eye toward making what you intend to do a more solid and permanent thing.
I wish you every success in the coming year and beyond. You are the one who is controlling who you become, and I know that what you become will be something magnificent.
I look forward to interacting with you over the next year. I look forward to hearing how you are living a life of personal significance. Connect with the community here. Share your experiences. You never know how you might affect another member of the community. You never know how far what you share will go. Participate and see where it leads.
Happy New Year to each and every one of you. I wish you health, prosperity, and happiness, always.