“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
~ Howard Thurman
Like you, I have many dreams and goals. I have many desires. Like you, I often feel like I am making no progress toward my desires. Like you, I sometimes feel overwhelmed by everything I want to do. Like you, I find myself giving up on some of my dreams and goals because I see no progress.
I am obviously making some assumptions about you. I am assuming that you are similar to me when it comes to dreams, goals, and desires. I know that assumptions are dangerous, but in talking to many people, I have come to discover that I am not unique in the way I approach my desires. I am not unique in the way I feel about my dreams.
What may be unique about me is the way that I pursue my dreams…at least some of my pursuit may not be the norm.
I know what I want my life to be. I know what I want in my life, I know what I want to do with my life, and I know how I want my life to feel…and it changes every day. Of course, most of what I feel is my ideal life is consistent from day to day, but I am continually adding to it. I am continuously updating my desires to include new things, and to exclude things that I no longer desire. My desires are not stagnant, and I’m sure yours aren’t either.
When pursuing my dreams I first get a vision of what I want from that dream or desire. I try to determine what I am looking to get from it…I look for the “what’s in it for me,” and I truly delve into the reason that I want this as a part of my life – whether it be a thing, a person, an event, or an experience. I ask myself why…what’s my motivation.
Next I spend some time with my desire. I spend time thinking about it. I spend time visualizing it. I make it as real in my mind as I can. I try to feel what it will be like when my dream or desire is manifested as a part of my life. I try to involve all of my senses. I experience it in my mind to the best of my ability. I do this until I believe that it is not only possible to have this as a part of my life, but that it is inevitable.
I am sure that every one of you has done this with at least some of your dreams…and I’m willing to bet that most of the things you have done this with, are now a part of your life.
Once I can “feel” my desire in my life, and I believe that it will undoubtedly be a part of my life, I do the most important thing of all in pursuing my dreams. I let it go. I let go of the attachment to it. I let go of the necessity of having it be a part of my life. This is not always easy to do. When it is something that I hold close and dear to my heart, it is very difficult to let go…but I remind myself that it will happen, because I believe it will.
This letting go is the most important part. Yes, I want it in my life, so letting go seems counter-intuitive, but I know it is necessary. You see, when you let go, you release any resistance to having it as a part of your life. Why would there be resistance? It is just a natural part of having a dream. Your reality does not match your desire, and thus there is some resistance to the desire, no matter how badly you want it. When you can release the resistance, you allow what you want to flow into your life. It may not happen as you imagine…as a matter of fact it most likely will not happen exactly as you imagine…but it will happen. The way the Universe lines it up for you may be a surprise, but when you have a chance to look at it in retrospect, you will realize that it could not have come in any better way.
I never worry about how things will come to me. I don’t believe that is my part of the equation. My part is to determine what I want (with a clear vision), and then to believe that it is mine. After that, all I have to do is to allow it to flow into my life.
Of course there will be action involved. But I don’t have to plan the actions. The actions will occur to me…they will be inspired. I may not even realize that the actions I take are what will bring my desire to me. It doesn’t matter. I will be inspired to do what is necessary for my desire to come to me.
I encourage you to try this approach when you are pursuing your dreams. Your dreams will manifest much more quickly than if you wrestled them to the ground through a series of planned actions which are designed to “make” something happen in your life. Not only will they manifest more quickly, but the way in which they present themselves will be a delightful surprise, and they may come in a way that your cannot even imagine…and it will be in a way that will provide everything you are looking for from your desire.
Can you sit back and allow your life to unfold as the Universe brings your desires to you in the best possible way? Do you feel that you can let go of your desires once you believe they are yours? Leave a comment and let the community know what you think about this. We’re listening.