"I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we're all teachers - if we're willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door."
~ Marla Gibbs
Perhaps you have heard about affirmations – positive statements that are repeated over and over again to enable your subconscious to take hold of them and bring positive change into your life. Perhaps you practice doing affirmations on a daily basis. There is nothing wrong with this, but I feel that many people have the wrong idea about what affirmations are meant to do, and so they get themselves into a rut by making this a daily practice.
Through the contrast of our daily lives we are able to determine what we like and what we don’t like. When we find something that we don’t like, we can easily find what we do like by examining why we don’t like it…so we can always determine what we like. When this determination happens, it is like asking for that very thing and things like it. We have our preferences.
Now that we have determined a preference, the Universe says “YES!” to it, and sets about bringing our preferences to us. Of course, this doesn’t happen with every single thought. If you have a passing thought that you think only once, and then forget it and move on, never to think about it again, then it is unlikely that anything will come of it…unless it was thought with an extremely strong emotion, in which case, you are most likely to dwell on it for a while.
As you determine your preferences, you are most likely attaching emotion to them. You imagine how having these preferences in your life will make you feel, and your feeling about them strengthens. You think of them over and over for a while. You get clear on what you want. The Universe starts to respond and lines things up to bring this into your life.
The Universe does not need you to continually think the same thought over and over for it to act upon your thoughts. It is the emotion that you attach to the thought that determines the importance of the thought in the Universe. Strong emotions (either positive or negative) will give importance to your preference.
Now you have asked for what you want. The thing to do now is not necessarily to keep asking through repeating affirmations. You have asked and you have been heard. Your part now is to allow what you have asked for to come into your life.
It is true that the Universe responds to the things we think about most. It is true that if we keep thinking something that it eventually becomes a belief, and our beliefs determine what we experience in our lives. So, you may be wondering, why I say affirmations aren’t necessary.
Developing affirmations is a wonderful way to gain clarity about what you want. You write down what you want and you massage the words into a simple sentence that is easy to remember so that you can repeat it over and over…now you are clear. But I challenge you to take any affirmation and repeat it 100 times. While repeating it, stay focused on the meaning of what you are repeating. Keep the emotion that you have attached to this thought at full force while you repeat it. I doubt that anyone can actually do this. If you can, then, by all means, affirm away.
A word of caution…repeating an affirmation can have a negative effect. If you repeat your affirmations with the thought that you are attracting something into your life that you don’t have, then you are approaching things from the perspective of lack. And lack is exactly what you will attract.
I would rather spend my time reveling in the adventure of life. I have asked for my preferences, and I like to spend my time experiencing life and determining new preferences. I know that what I have asked for is coming to me. I know that I only need allow the wonderful things I have thought of to come into my life.
The Universe does not forget what you have asked for. As soon as you determine a preference, it is set. You don’t need to keep asking. If you have attached emotion to your preference, all the better…but you don’t have to keep asking. There is nothing wrong with thinking about what you want, it is actually a good thing…as long as you are thinking about what you want, from the perspective of wanting it…not from the perspective of what it will change or improve in your life…
Affirmations have their place, but in the arena of manifesting your desires, I feel it is much more effective to just set it and forget it. The Universe will not forget that you have asked.
Do you do affirmations? Do you find that they work? Are you willing to try just setting it and forgetting it? Get clear and sit back and allow the Universe to deliver. Leave a comment and let the community know what you think. We’re listening.