"As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness."~ Henry David Thoreau
I have had a lot on my plate lately. I have been trying to simplify and it has been working…to some extent. A few weeks ago I wrote about my strategy of only putting 4 posts on my list of things to do. (The Less I Try to Get Done, The More I Get Done!). That has been working for me, and I continue with it, but I have just discovered another way to simplify.
I have had several major projects on my plate. When I took them on, they interested me, and they were a part of my plan…they served me. Recently, however, I have found that they were bogging me down…they no longer interest me, and, as a matter of fact, they were starting to hold me back. So why was I continuing with them? I think it was a sense of commitment.
This sense of commitment stemmed from not wanting to let others down…not wanting to stop in the middle of something. Of course, these projects do affect others, and without my part, others may have to do more. It is hard to let that kind of thing go. I was raised to do what I said I would do.
Well, I finally decided that these projects were making me so unhappy, and so unproductive in other areas of my life, that I had to do something. And so I did. I let them go. I let the people that they would affect know that I would not be completing them.
There were some upset people, let me tell you. I almost caved in and took the reigns back…but I refrained. I stuck to my resolve, and things have calmed down…the others that were affected have calmed down, and best of all, I have calmed down. I have released these things and I feel great for it.
I was doing what I was doing out of a sense of obligation. I didn’t want to let other people down. When I look back at it, what I was doing instead, was letting myself down. I was worried that others would think I didn’t keep my word. I was worried that they would hate me…and so, I kept going, and I started to begin to hate myself…Hmmm…I would much rather have others hate me.
I knew it was time to simplify. I am so glad that I did. Now I can move on with my life…and that is exactly what I need to keep in mind…it is MY LIFE. I need to live for me. I need to make myself the most important person in my life. What others think of me is none of my business. Let them judge…at least I can live with myself…and I can be happy about it.
Is it time for you to simplify? You know, deep down inside, if it is. Don’t get caught up in the trap of continuing to do something just because you started it. Don’t feel you need to finish something if it no longer serves you. You may anger some people, but you will be better off in the long run if you release it as soon as you see that it is no longer what you want or need.
I’d like to hear about your experiences with this type of thing. I know my experiences ended up positive in the end…at least positive for me. I’m sure you’ll find the same thing when you decide to simplify…you know when it’s right.