"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
~ Wayne Dyer
I am actually quite surprised by the number of people that I have met who blame all of their problems on outside forces, on circumstances, on others. It surprises me because I know, and I have come to accept, that I am responsible for everything in my life…EVERYTHING.
I don’t know where this habit of playing the “blame game” came from. Perhaps it is because we are afraid to admit that we have brought our lives to the state they are through our own choices and actions. Many of us are disappointed at the current state of our lives, we feel that they are broken or lacking in some way. This is not the case.
Our lives are perfect as they are. We chose to live through all of the adversity and challenge (as well as all of the good parts.) We chose it for reasons that we cannot necessarily see from our limited perspectives. Without the adversity...the contrast…we would not know that we want something different in our lives. We chose our lives so that we would see the potential, so we could wish for and identify something better…something more wanted…more preferred.
Everything in life is a dichotomy. It has 2 extremes. Without knowledge of both, we are not aware of either. Without darkness, we would not understand or be aware of light. Without sadness, we would not understand or be aware of happiness. Everything has an opposite…or an alternate extreme.
Everything in life is as we intended it to be. Living life is how we set our preferences. It is how we decide what we want and what we don’t want. Accept it. You cannot change your current circumstances, but in just a split second, you can choose to accept life as it is, and you can choose to move forward from here. There is nowhere else to move forward from.
As you start to accept your life and take the responsibility for it, you will find yourself more at peace. You will find yourself happier…if you choose to be happy. How you feel about anything is a choice.
When you find yourself in a situation that you don’t like, if you keep thinking about it…about how bad things are, about how you are unfortunate, you will keep the vibration of those circumstances active in your vibration. We attract to ourselves the things which match the vibration we dominantly put out. The more you think about it, the more of the same you will attract into your life.
Suck it up, sweetheart. Accept life as it is and let it go. Learn from the adversity and contrast…learn what you do want in life…and concentrate on that. If you are sick, don’t concentrate on not being sick, concentrate, instead, on being in perfect healthy. If you lack financial resources, don’t concentrate on all of the disadvantages that this lack causes you, concentrate on being prosperous instead.
Your reality is merely a reflection of what your dominant thoughts and vibrations have been in the past. That is all it is…a reflection of PAST thoughts and vibrations. You can, at any time, choose to think new thoughts, to move your dominant vibrations to the things you want in life.
Remember, there is really no good or bad. There is no right and wrong. There just is. The judgements that we make of anything are merely how we feel from our current perspectives. As we change our perspectives, our judgements will change.
Adopt a practice of thinking about what you want in life, as opposed to the things you don’t want. Adopt a practice of acceptance of everything as perfect for this time and place. Adopt a practice of accepting responsibility for your life. When you do this, you will become a much more peaceful and happy person. This is the beginning of living a life of your dreams…of living a life of personal significance.
I am interested to hear what you think about this. Remember, what you think about anything is merely the way you see it from your current perspective, but I want to know how you feel about this…at this time. Leave a comment and let the community know how accepting or unaccepting you are of this.