"Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy."
Take some time to reflect on what you really want in your life. I mean really take a close look. Examine the things you desire. Don’t just think about the things, circumstances, people, and events that you want, but think about your motivation, your “Why?”
Most of us (I want to say all of us, but perhaps there is an exception) want what we want for only one reason. We think that having what we want will make us feel better. We think that having our desires will make us happy, or bring us satisfaction (another word for happy), or bring an excitement to life (another phrase for happy.) I feel, if you examine your motivation, for any desire, closely enough, you will find your motivation to be happiness, or at least the very mildest form of happiness…relief.
You may notice that this idea seems to be a theme in what I have been writing about lately. There is a good reason for that. I have been doing a lot of reflecting on my life, and this is what I have discovered about myself, and indeed, about others with whom I have discussed this concept. Happiness is our ultimate goal, our motivation.
So when I ask “What do you really want?” I am asking you to delve into the depths of your soul and discover your motivation. I am very confident that you will find the same thing I have found. You want happiness. If this is what you find, then I have some very good news for you!
Happiness is a choice. You can, at any time you choose, be happy. You don’t need that new house. You don’t need to have that perfect relationship. You don’t need to have that dream job. You can choose to be happy right where you are.
The beautiful thing about choosing to be happy without the perceived external sources of happiness is that the Universe will bring you things to be happy about. The more often you choose happiness, the more things that support that happiness will appear. I know this sounds crazy. I know you think this is backward, but trust me, it is the way things really work.
I don’t ask you to believe me. I only ask that you suspend doubt long enough to give it a try. You have nothing to lose. My suggestion to you is to find a way – spend some time on this, as it is not the way we are taught in our society – to feel happy. Look inside yourself and you will discover the capacity to choose happiness, despite your external circumstances. Make the choice, and stick with it for a while. I am excited for you because I know that if you do this, your life will begin to change, and you will find that more and more circumstances are flowing into your life that support that happiness.
Are you willing to give it a try? Leave a comment and let the community know if you are willing to try. If you have tried this for a while, is it working for you? Share your experiences with the community, it may encourage others to try. We’re listening.