As we get past our superficial material wants and instant gratification we connect to a deeper part of ourselves, as well as to others, and the universe.~ Judith Wright
I’m a fairly organized person. I have known that I was going to write this post for a couple of months…I try to plan what I will write about, but I am never opposed to something coming up that doesn’t fit into the plan. I can change the plan…I’m flexible.
When I originally decided that I would write about my take on Instant Gratification, I had a particular view…one that I have held for a long time…but recent events, thoughts, and realizations have altered my perspective, and thus I have had to think long and hard about what to write here.
I have never felt that instant gratification was a good thing, butnow I am starting to believe that it certainly can be. A week ago I wrote a post – The Deferred Life Plan…It doesn’t work - and in that post I talk about one of the things that has caused my perspective change…or at least how the realization came about.
Instant gratification, to me, means, I want it now, and if I can’t have it, then I don’t want to put in the work to get it. To me, that still seems wrong, and (yes, I’m judging here – after all, all opinions are judgements), I feel that those not willing to put in the work, do not deserve what they want.
“The work,” however, need not be physical or mental labour. It can be any type of work. Getting what you truly desire may only take a change in perspective, or a change in beliefs, but nonetheless, these things require work…granted it is internal work…but it is still something that must be done.
I truly believe that we can, and should, have anything we want in our lives. I truly believe that we are unlimited. However, that does not mean that I believe we can, and should, have everything right this instant. I actually believe that there is very little that we want that would actually be worth having in this way.
Our lives are not about having. What we have in our lives is really worth nothing, except for the value that we place on it. I firmly believe that instant gratification devalues what we get in this way. When we have to work or struggle to attain something…anything…we place more value on it. It is something that we create, or achieve. It is something that we have done the work for, and that makes is so sweet to have.
We are here for the experience of living…for the journey. The journey toward out goals and dreams, the journey toward our ideal life…to our deepest desires…is what we are after. It is what allows us to grow and expand. It is what life is made of.
Life is not having, but rather the wanting, the moving toward, the growth and expansion. It really doesn’t even matter if we ever get our desires…as long a we don’t let this stop us from trying.
Life is sweet. Life is so much more than any of us realize. Life is our us…your life is about you…the real you…not the you that is defined by what you have or what you have accomplished…but the you that the struggles and challenges, the celebrations and connections that we forge.
There is nothing wrong with doing the things in your life that will make you happy. Instant gratification really doesn’t have much to do with not deferring your life. The two do not equate. Allowing happiness into your life will move you forward spiritually, and thus, it is actually work toward the life you desire (because we all desire to be happy.)
Let the instant gratification go. Accept yourself as you are…and allow life to happen…allow your dreams to happen. You will find yourself valuing the important things in life…and you will soon start to realize that life is not “stuff” or “accomplishment,” but rather the joy of moving toward what you want and experience that you have as you do it.
Let the community know what you think about instant gratification…how does it fit into your life? How does it truly make you feel? Let me know if you agree with me or disagree. Share your experience for the good of the community. We’re listening.